Binge Eating As Self-Aggression

Binge eating can be an act of aggression towards ourselves as a result of avoiding who we are truly angry at, and the truth about who harmed us in our childhood.

When I used to binge eat, sometimes I'd think to myself, "I'm doing this because I'm terrified of blood and so can't cut myself."

The feeling was, if I felt like I could cut, I would. I wanted to. But instead, I binge ate till I was in extreme pain, and hurt myself that way, while imagining cutting myself.

Not all binge eating that we do is necessarily driven by this feeling, but it certainly can be, and so it's important to talk about.

This kind of binge eating is driven by extreme self-hatred, a desire to destroy oneself and a burning rage that we often don't even understand.

Wanting to harm ourselves with food is actually an avoidance of the true feelings we need to feel and the truth that we need to seek.

And these answers go back to childhood. If you have a desire to harm yourself with food, there is much to discover about the truth of how you were treated in your childhood.

Who is really the cause of this anger? Who treated you in such a way that you learned to turn this self-hatred towards yourself?

The more we recognize what we may have thought was a normal childhood for what it actually was, the urge to hurt ourselves with food can subside.

The more we feel the rage and pain and devastation that's at the core of the truth of how we were treated, the more we will want to treat ourselves and our bodies kindly and gently, and to not harm with binge eating.

We can have the bravery to consider that this self-aggression is not something we feel because we are worthless and awful and to blame, but because we were treated like we were worthless and awful and to blame.

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