When we Overeat, We Emotionally Abandon Ourselves

When we compulsively eat, we have to leave ourselves to do it.

Compulsive eating is an emotional abandonment of our own souls.

In that moment, we leave so much behind. We leave the truth of how we feel behind, we leave the truth of what has happened to us behind.

So many of us have so much pain about loneliness, isolation, abandonment and rejection from others, and yet, we do the same to ourselves when we overeat or binge.

There are hurt parts of us and scared parts of us. There are angry parts of us and hopeless parts of us. There are heartbroken parts of us and devastated parts. We abandon all of these parts of ourselves when we go to foods and drinks addictively.

Every time we overeat we are saying to those parts,

"I don't want you. I don't like you. You are not important to me. I don't want to be anywhere near you. I don't want to hear what you have to say. I don't care how you feel. I don't want to know what happened to you. I don't love you."

It is impossible to be present loving yourself and to be overeating at the same time.

Overeating is a form of dissociation, an act of disconnection and often involves being totally out of body.

We need to stop abandoning ourselves by overeating. Instead, we can stay with the angry, scared, and hurt parts of ourselves.

We can listen to those feelings, we can be curious about where they truly came from. And most of all, we must feel those feelings.

Healing compulsive eating is a process of opening to intimacy with ourselves. It is a journey of developing a relationship with ourselves.

You've been abandoned and rejected enough in your childhood and your life. Don't continue doing it to yourself.

You can be the first person in your life to stay with your heart and soul.

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