How to Stop Emotionally Eating When You’re Lonely

The feeling of loneliness is separate from actually being alone. If we eat when we feel lonely, we need to let ourselves feel those lonely feelings, as well as ask,

“Why am I lonely in the first place?”

Compulsively eating when we feel lonely is a common experience.

But being by yourself and feeling lonely are not intrinsically related.

We can feel lonely when we aren't alone, and we may not feel lonely even when we are alone.

The emotional experience of loneliness comes from other sources.

We need to feel our lonely feelings instead of overeating.

In other words, you’ll need to have some good cries or rages about feeling lonely.

Overeating does not heal through any other method than feeling emotions.

As with every emotion, we need to feel our loneliness in order to help it release from us.

It is important not to try to “fix” loneliness by saying,

"Ok, I feel lonely and I eat a lot when I'm lonely. I'll go out on a mission to get myself a partner as soon as possible, or I'll make sure I'm always busy and always surrounded by people so I never feel lonely."

This would be a band-aid approach, a substitution of another addiction in order to avoid the core issue of feeling lonely. It's a side-step rather than a true healing solution.

We also can examine why we feel lonely. Again, the answer to this question is not necessarily the fact you're alone.

For example, you might feel lonely because there is a huge rift in your marriage where you and your partner are not being fully honest with each other and resolving issues and so you don't feel intimate and close.

You might have always felt lonely, ever since being a child, because your real self may not have been desired, encouraged and celebrated by your parents.

They may not have really seen you emotionally, even if they were around physically.

I also believe some of our loneliness comes from a disconnection from God.

So you can feel about why you might feel disconnected from God and not loved or cared for by Her, and that may also help.

In the end a lot of our blocks with God are about unresolved issues with our parents, so the more you deal with those, the better your sense of spiritual connection will get.

For more great discussion on how to unblock ourselves to a relationship with God, I highly recommend the Divine Truth material at www.DivineTruth.com or via the Divine Truth YouTube channel.

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