Your Children Aren’t Causing Your Overeating

If you’re a parent, your children are not the cause of your compulsive eating. Your own childhood is.

Many of the people I work with in healing food addiction are parents or grandparents. I am not a parent at this point, and so it is true that I've not had the experience of dealing with kids triggering me as I know they would if I had them.

However, I have learned a great deal about the truth of emotions, addictions and parents and children from the Divine Truth material, and have some friends who have experimented in their relationships with their children and their discoveries are incredible! I also was myself a child of a parent who had eating issues (my mom) and ate when she was emotionally triggered, often seemingly by family life.

I'm going to share more below, but if you would like to learn about these truths from people who are parents, I recommend heading to YouTube and watching the Divine Truth videos about parents and children.

Also, my friend Eloisa Sparks, also has a YouTube channel talking about her experiences with her three kids and her emotional triggers. You can find her channel by clicking here.

Children are always reflecting their parents' denied and suppressed emotions. They are like little mirrors.

Their outbursts, demands, meltdowns, feeling and emotions are all reflections of something going on with you. They are also reflecting denied emotions of any other adults they spend a lot of time with too; perhaps your spouse or partner or a grandparent.

So when you feel really triggered by your kids and want to overeat, what's happening is that they are triggering something that actually originated in your own childhood which is still emotionally unresolved.

And if you think your kids' behavior is the problem, then you'll miss the opportunity to connect with what is more deeply going on for you and aspects of your childhood experience that you have yet to heal.

The best thing is to take yourself away, let yourself feel whatever anger, fear, shame, or sadness is being triggered, try not to eat about it, and connect to what is more deeply going on for you. Whatever is being triggered is far older than your children's existence.

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